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2) Family pressures If you’ve just stepped off the plane, it’s forgivable that you don’t know the cultural differences just yet.
One of the biggest differences you’ll encounter is that parental pressure and lofty expectations play a much larger role in Chinese dating than they do in many Western countries.
The parents get a say in the matter, if not out-right organize the whole relationship.
Similarly, while I suspect that many of these ideas still apply to some extent if you are a foreign girl looking to date a Chinese guy, or with gay/lesbian dating in China, I unfortunately cannot offer any first-hand accounts of these types of relationships.
I welcome the input of our readers in the comments section below! You always hear about foreign guys coming to hook up with innocent Chinese girls and then leaving them the next day.
It’s true that some foreign guys are just looking for a casual sexual relationship. Yet, the thing that tends to be left out of this discussion in the Chinese blogosphere, is that the people themselves are only acting as agents for the cultures in which they grew up.
The heart of this issue comes from the fact that dating, relationships and sex in Western countries is far more casual than in China, even in bigger, more metropolitan cities like Beijing and Shanghai.
The topic is a perennial favorite on Chinese forums and Weibo.
These criticisms are 1) patronizing to the women who date foreign guys 2) slightly xenophobic and 3) not entirely unfounded.
Source: Keep in mind that these are all generalities, only based on my personal experiences.
As such, perhaps not everything I say in the following paragraphs will adhere to every person, Chinese or foreign.
When two Chinese go on a first date, especially dates organized by their mothers or a coven of plotting ayis, it can be a fairly serious affair, even with children/families/marriage discussed in some cases. However, at least in America, we will go on dates with people we hardly even know/like for something interesting to do, a chance at an actual future together, and—this is important—the potential for a mutually-agreed upon sexual relationship.